7 things I learned very late

In Life, Self-Improvement on November 8, 2009 at 1:29 pm

The value and result of any life is directly proportional to the utilization of time and attitude. Certain situations force me to delve inside my own self to retrospect. I question, this could’ve been better at that time? This could’ve been avoided? While there is no sense crying over spilt milk, but the reason to look back is to teach myself that timing is all that matters. Some things can be controlled and improved lately, whereas some things go beyond our reach and you just can’t revert back the pages to re-attempt.

I extracted seven lessons from that big pile of mistakes I did till date. Below is the list of all those things that could’ve changed my life altogether:

1.   The value of teen age:

For the first half of your life, people tell you what you should do;
for the second half, they tell you what you should have done.

–Richard Needham

In youth the days are short and the years are long;
in old age the years are short and the days are long.


Age is something which you cannot get back, and teen age is rather the most golden time of your life. I always wanted to be an entrepreneur but, like other teenagers, I wanted to have everything at once. Most of the time I remain baffled and I felt no need to set goals. There was no vision as to what I want from my life. Today, when I read about Linus Torvalds (author of Linux Operating System), Sergey M. Brin and Lawrence E. Page (founders of Google), I could feel the significance of age. Teen age, rather, age up to 25, is the most precious period of one’s life. You can take plenty of risks because there is sufficient time to recover. You are full of energy, fresh ideas and dashing spirit.

2.   The value of time:

It is just a matter of timing that can change the whole scene. One successful entrepreneur has said: “Be at the right place at the right time”. Some of the valuable ideas that I now came across are not worth implementation because the time is lost. Some things rely entirely on time. If I had implemented those ideas, say, five years back, the scenario must have been different. Therefore, utilize the time very cautiously. This, present minute, is what we have and after each tick, you are losing it.

How to utilize time properly depends on how you allocate the most important things first. Just watch carefully, usually we are over involved doing things that need not be done at all. We are busy procrastinating things that need immediate attention. As Stephen R. Covey says: “First Things First, always”.

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that the stuff life is made of.

— Benjamin Franklin

There is never enough time to do everything,

but there is always enough time to do the most important thing.

— Brian Tracy

3.   The value of vision:

If you don’t know where you’re going,
it doesn’t matter which way you go.

–Lewis Carroll

I remember my first interview in a company. After clearing the first few levels, I reached the final level. The interviewer asked: “How to you see yourself five years from now?”. I was puzzled and felt really ashamed also. I desperately wanted this job and it was the job only that I was thinking at that point of time. I never gave a thought on what I want to become after five years. Day and night this question filled my mind; what is that I really want to become?

I decided to give my life a direction and clear my vision. I decided to set a time daily for contemplation to track my daily progress.

If you don’t have a vision, you are an aimless wanderer.

Your vision is the promise of
what you shall one day be;
your ideal is the prophecy
of what you shall at last unveil.

–James Lane Allen

4.   The value of ideas:

The uncommon man is merely the common man
thinking and dreaming of success in larger terms
and in more fruitful areas.

–Melvin Powers

You must keep searching for areas people have never thought of. Don’t keep your ideas constrained to your own self, but think on a broader spectrum. The beauty lies not in just an idea, but in how well it was timed and how well you implemented.

Discovery consists of seeing what everybody has seen and thinking what nobody has thought.

–Albert von Szent – Gyorgy.

5.   The value of risk taking attitude:

If you play safe in life, you’ve decided that you don’t want to grow anymore.

— Shirley Mount Hufstedler.

There is a popular saying: “No risk, no gain”. I saw a movie few years back in which actor Ajay Devgan, who played the role of an army man, replies to his senior:

Some goals are so worthy, it is even glorious to fail.

Therefore, don’t be afraid of implementing an idea. Give it a sure shot, keep improving and put all your effort into it. When Graham Bell demonstrated his idea (Telephone), many said the device and the idea itself is the most hopeless thing they have ever seen and the device has no use in future also. But this didn’t discourage Graham. And now we can see that life is impossible without it.


An idea not implemented, is just another dream.

6.   The value of health:

Look to your health; and if you have it, praise God, and value it next to a good conscience; for health is the second blessing that we mortals are capable of; a blessing that money cannot buy.

–Izaak Walton

I have seen a businessman who possess lots of wealth but he is unable to enjoy daily meal. He once said to me: “You see Rohit, these servants of mine, enjoy sweets and halua (an Indian sweet preparation) with dry-fruits on it daily, they enjoy roasted chicken weekly and they are able to digest everything. This is because, they are poor and do physical labor whole day. I accumulated wealth but I am not able to enjoy this type of food, because I am diabetic”.

While you are striving hard to reach the peak and pushing your body to the limits, don’t forget to keep your body fit and healthy. You absolutely need your body in good health when the rewards of your labor come later.

7.   The value of principle-centered living:

Decisions are made in a moment, but growth comes from daily discipline.

–John C. Maxwell.

This is the most important thing that I learnt lately. Principles are a blue-print of your life. If you seriously want to make your life worthy and want to give contribution to this world, make your own principles and never divert yourself from them. A disciplined man, sooner or later, receives more respect than others. It also shows how much you love yourself.

A principle is a principle,
And in no case can it be watered down,
because of our incapability to live it in practice.
We have to strive to achieve it,
and the striving should be conscious, deliberate and hard.

–Mahatma Gandhi.

Photo Credit: Cristina Chirtes, Romania


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