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15 principles for a powerful personality

In Personality on June 24, 2009 at 8:36 pm

(1) Speak when necessary

The more you speak the more you will appear common and less in control. Speak when it is necessary and scrutinize your words before.

(2) Be brief with your conversation

Don’t extend your conversation unnecessarily. Try to conclude as soon as possible.

(3) Guard your reputation

Always attempt diligently to keep yourself clean. Never perform such actions that stains your reputation.

(4) Remain honest

Be honest with yourself. This way you will enhance your reputation.

(5) Overcome shyness

Don’t see here and there when someone is talking to you. See directly in the eyes of the next person and remain confident. When you sit and when you walk, don’t allow shyness to hide your smartness.

(6) Don’t be commonly available

The more you are easily available to others the more common you appear. Maintain your identity as a busy person.

(7) Avoid the company of the cheap and the fools

When you want to know a person, see his company. Always remain in the circle of the wise and the powerful. Avoid the cheap and the fools as they steals away your reputation.

(8) Be generous but don’t get over involved

Help the poor and the needy but don’t get over involved in their personal life. Over involvement makes you cheap and you will soon find yourself surrounded with their emotions that may affect your life. Help from the outside.

(9) Dress neatly

A shabbily dressed never attracts respect. First impression is the last impression. Dress neatly and smartly and you will attract attention.

(10) Don’t forget gratitude

Never ever forget the power of gratitude. The wise and the powerful know its strength. Gratitude adds to your reputation.

(11) Perform without fail what you resolve

Always try to keep your resolution. The more you keep your promise the more powerful and respected you appear.

(12) Keep yourself fit and healthy

The sick and the weak never attracts power. Therefore, try your best to keep your body fit and healthy. Eat to live and not live to eat.

(13) Walk confidently

When you walk, don’t bend your shoulders and appear like a camel. Walk like a lion and remain confident.

(14) Live a balanced life

Extreme of anything is harmful. Give proper time to all sections of your life. Your body, mind and soul must also get equal attention.

(15) Don’t forget politeness

It is said that politeness is the ornament of the wise and the powerful. In power, don’t forget politeness. It adds to your respect.


Living a less distracted life.

In Productivity on June 23, 2009 at 3:34 pm

Distraction in life comes in different flavors. Technology distraction is also one of them. Studies have shown that we are more productive when we do single-tasking and not multi-tasking. We are built for single-tasking. There is a huge amount of energy drain when we give place to all types of distraction during work.

· How many times you check your mail in a day?

· How often you submit your status on to any social site?

· How often you send SMS?

· How often you make a call that is not urgent?

· How long you extend your telephone calls?

· How many hours you waste on any social networking site?

I had a habit of sending frequent messages using my mobile phone. Later this habit became a nuisance. My entire conversations were happening through SMS and it took hours to reach the conclusion. The conversation that could have ended up in minutes with a telephone call, extended to an hour with messaging. It did not yield a good result. Often the other person misunderstood what I said via messaging. This habit resulted in another side-effect. Another sub-habit of checking cell phone screen often to convince myself that I had not missed any message. I lost concentration and peace of mind altogether. This habit of peeping on my cell phone screen distracted me often during work. I didn’t recognize that I was also giving strain to my body unnecessarily. I was continuously using my right thumb many times in a minute to type a message. The idea to eliminate this bad habit popped when the outgoing service of my cell phone stopped when I forgot to pay the bill. Few hours without messaging and calls relaxed me, though I was feeling something in my right thumb. I made a firm decision to get rid of this distraction and other similar ones. I followed some steps to eliminate this habit and quite satisfied with the result. Below I am giving the same techniques that I followed. You can use them and even refine it further to live a least distracted life.

1. Don’t involve yourself too much in any technology or gadget unless you truly recognize the significance of it in your life. Awareness of any technology is good, little working knowledge is an added advantage but addiction without any outcome is a nuisance. You are loosing your valuable time, energy and peace of mind.
2. If you enjoy internet surfing, allot a certain amount of time but don’t surrender your entire day.
3. If you are not in a profession where you get frequent e-mails, check e-mail once a day.
4. Be brief in your conversation. Don’t extend your telephonic conversation unnecessarily.
5. Avoid stress as much as you can. Unknowingly, you are putting stress on your body and draining energy by just using your thumb for frequent messages.
6. Keep your cell phones away when going to sleep. Don’t play with the cell phone and wait for the sleep. Read a good book instead.
7. Unless very urgent, don’t pick calls while you are driving.
8. To start with, turn off your phone and keep other gadgets away. Devote at least one hour without these technology distractions and dive into your inner-self.

If you want to be productive, practice a least distracted life. Utilize the technology to simplify your life not to complicate it further. Distraction is a type of complication without pain. Pick what is useful and brings a positive change in your life but don’t become addicted.

The power of setting weekly goals

In Goals, Procrastination on June 19, 2009 at 7:28 pm

I read many books focusing on the importance of goals. The techniques suggested there in were sometimes too theoretical, as if the reader wants to do Ph.d, and sometimes too cumbersome to implement in real life. I also read about long-term and short-term goals and tried to implement the techniques on my life.

Credit: Marcell Marra

Nothing worked well for a long time and I was frustrated only after a few days of practice. If there are no goals, there is a lack of focus and I experienced that. Your efforts are not directed in the right direction, you waste a lot of energy and time and your days are wasted on trifles. I kept planning and searching for the right solution that works, for me in particular. I wanted a strategy that is easy to implement and gives a sense of accomplishment soon. I am practicing one such strategy and it is working for me.

  1. Write down all your goals for the current month. Don’t overload the list with a variety of goals that might remain unfulfilled. Write only those goals that are important and the achievement of which brings a real change in your life. If your goal will take six-months or say ten years, then break the goal into fragments so that it is achievable easily.
  2. Break the plan of a particular goal to a weekly sub-plan. Describe what you want to do this week. Don’t be over-ambitious. Only plan what is easily approachable and gets accomplished.
  3. To plan better, I use Microsoft Project. It helps me track progress and has other useful features. You can also use Microsoft Excel or even Microsoft Outlook for this. If you are lagging behind, refine your activity so that you can do it in next week.

Prior to using Microsoft Project, I used a very simple Microsoft Excel sheet. I wanted to keep it very simple so that I don’t have to waste time just to fill it daily. You can add any other things you need to record.

Breaking goals into fragments and tracking your progress on a weekly basis gives a sense of accomplishment. You won’t feel overloaded nor does the goal remain neglected altogether. To avoid procrastination, start your day by visualizing the points I discussed in my earlier post Doing what needs to be done. To-Do List and Goals are two different things. Thord Daniel Hedengren has written a very good article on his blog titled Setting Weekly Goals to Increase Productivity. If you already use weekly goals, please let me know your plan.

Doing what needs to be done.

In Productivity, Work on June 18, 2009 at 5:27 am

I noted few points on my diary to review them when I start my day. I got printed these lines and hanged them in my office in a location where I can see it often.

Am I too occupied in a task that need not be done at all?

Am I neglecting tasks that need urgent attention?

How productive I am today? Am I able to put less effort and gain more?

Am I absorbed in thoughts that have no relevance in my life?

Am I giving space only to positive thoughts in my mind?

Am I fit today in terms of body, mind and soul?

Am I speaking less and doing more?

Am I polite enough to reflect professionalism?

What I am doing today to improve this day of my life?

Whenever I take any task in my hand, I first question myself:

Is it the right task that I am putting my valuable time and effort to accomplish it? It needs to be done at all or not?

I have seen improvement since the time I started questioning. The essence is to do the right things at the right time.